Selfish pain

I don't mind taking on my friends pain and hurt and suffering. Infact I am glad to. I just wish I didn't open my mouth while doing that. Sometimes I hurt so deeply that I want to dish out the advise that saved me from mistake after mistake. Sometimes I want to avoid them and pass with a smile which in the end leads me to forgetting what they are going through and still feeling awful. And then there are the times that I hurt so deeply that all I can do is rant and vent with them. I should just be a shoulder and offer possitive feedback. Buy so much of the time I let my emotions run the show. And with finishing day two of bible study I just realized I'm being self absorbed. Even though I think I'm being humble it's still all about me. " I'm annoying, and there is no one more annoying than I" that's self absorbtion even if it's based on pity. I needed to read that bad. I know a few others that would benefit from it as well