Overcoming feeling unloved- by Beth moore.

Overcoming feeling unloved

I go through this constantly

the Word of God uses the phrase “unfailing love” thirty-two other times, and not one of them refers to any source other than God, Himself

Searching for perfect, unfailing love in anyone else is not only fruitless, it is miserably disappointing and destructive. I am convinced our hearts are not healthy until they have been satisfied by the only completely healthy love that exists: the love of God, Himself. The following words by Oswald Chambers are not only written in the front of my Bible, they are engraved deeply in my mind: “No love of the natural heart is safe unless the human heart has been satisfied by God first.”1 We are not free to love in the true intent of the word until we have found love. All of us have looked, but the important question is where? In the search for unfailing love, if we unknowingly allow Satan to become our tour guide, the quest will undoubtedly lead to captivity.

We are not wrong to think we desperately need to be loved. We do. But we are wrong to think we can make anyone love us the way we need to be loved. Our need does not constitute anyone else’s call but God’s. Many of us have heard the devastating words, “I just don’t love you any more.” Others may not have heard the words, but they have felt the feeling. The fear. Throughout life we will lose people who really loved us to death or changing circumstances. As dear and as rich as their love was, it was not unfailing. It moved. It died. It changed. It left wonderful memories . . . but it left a hole. Only God’s love never fails. Even when 1 Corinthians 13:8 says, “Love never fails,” it refers to the agape love of God given to us and exercised through us.

We each have our unmet needs, and we carry them around all day long like an empty cup. In one way or another, we hold out that empty cup to the people in our lives and say, “Can somebody please fill this? Even a tablespoon would help!”


Whether we seek to have our cup filled through approval, affirmation, control, success, or immediate gratification, we are miserable until something is in it. I have come to dearly love and appreciate Psalm 143:8: “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, / for I have put my trust in you. / Show me the way I should go, / for to you I lift up my soul.” What a heavy yoke is shattered when we awaken in the morning, bring our hearts, minds, and souls and all their “needs” to the Great Soul-ologist, offer Him our empty cups, and ask Him to fill them with Himself! This blessed of all believers will know from experience what the -apostle Paul meant in Colossians 2:10 (KJV): “Ye are complete in Him.”